“Sex should be the highest stage of communication and not a substitution of communication”. Marianne Williamson
Kisses and passionate embraces sooner or later lead to sex. But many teens are not ready for it and did not know how to behave during the first sex. In this article, we’ll tell you what you can and cannot do during your first time.
First sex for girls
The first and perhaps the most interesting question all girls ask when it comes to the depriving of virginity is “Does it hurt?” There is no clear answer, because someone may have the first sex without pain, while someone will fell a certain degree of discomfort. But in general, you shouldn’t worry much about the pain because it is not so strong.
During the first sexual experience you should take care of safety. Inexperienced sexual partners may inadvertently turn into young parents. So make sure you have a condom within a reach of your hand.
Perhaps the most important advice is to prepare morally for the loss of virginity and try to calm down. The girl feels less pain, if she is calm and relaxed. If the muscles of the vagina are highly compressed, your partner will encounter more difficulties to implement his plan provoking an excessive tension and pain. So try to relax completely.
“If sex is a natural activity, why there are so many sex manuals?” Betty Midler
The surrounding environment should comply to what happens with you. This is especially important for the girls. You should take care of lubrication during the first sexual experience. Lubrication helps the penis to penetrate the vagina with less effort.
The blood from the vagina is a common phenomenon during the first sex, so get ready to it. Of course, the amount of blood is unsubstantial in most cases and someone may have no blood at all.
If you are mentally not ready for the first sex, it’s better to postpone it because nervous condition may complicate everything greatly. Choose a favorite and trusted partner, the one with whom you can stay together for a long time. Ideally, women should have only one sexual partner, a greater number of partners may affect negatively your health as well as the health of your future children.
First sex for a guy
First sex is a great event for any guy, so it’s necessary to prepare for it properly
First and foremost, the guys should get ready to it mentally. The partner must be chosen very responsibly too. The girl should be a loved one and you have to understand each other. This is a very important thing during the first sex.
Also, take care of a condom and never neglect it. If a girl is a virgin too, buy a special lubricant, it will help both of you.
“Sex is a matter of taste. It’s bad for one and good for two”
Major fears the guys experience before the first sex concern their erection and time of the very sexual act. The answer on the first question is simple: it’s enough to be mentally prepared to sex and there are no problems. The second question is called a premature ejaculation and there are some details here. Many websites recommend masturbate before the first sexual intercourse. But it can become a problem rather than a solution, because at the crucial moment you may experience some problems with erection.
Young guys should realize that the first sex is never long and of a high quality, so it’s better to warn your partner about it in advance. If both partners understand this is the first time, the tension will be much smaller and therefore everything will happen much easier.
“Sex is an emotion in motion.” Mae West
Ideally, your partner should be close to you in terms of relationships. Completely undress before your first sex and start by kissing, hugging and touching. Thus, the tension will almost disappear and you can start it all comfortably.
The easy way to extend the first sex is to use a condom with thick walls. It dulls sensations and it may well contribute to the prolongation of the sexual intercourse.
Finally, the main advice: do not be afraid!!!